Sat Nam Goddesses,
The Spring Equinox kundalini experience is available for practice here.
This week’s Full Moon in Libra is about relationships—the grad school of a spiritual practice in the Aquarian Age. Letting our True Identity surge through our connection with others is truly a practice, best taken one day at a time.
There is a sister program to AA called Al-Anon. It was started by the wife of one of the founder’s of AA, years after her husband got sober. She had an epiphany one day after throwing a shoe at her husband’s head as he was leaving to meet another alcoholic in recovery—that even though life had become the way she had desperately prayed for it to be for so many years, her husband now enjoying many years of continuous sobriety, she was still so angry. She was the “good” one that took care of the house and the bills while he used to go out on benders. So why did she feel like the “bad” person now?
From this anger came the idea to start having meetings for the wives of alcoholics where they shared about their mental obsessions with their husbands’ lives—what they did, how they did it, and how it felt the same as when they were drinking, and how it was robbing them of joy and peace—the joy and peace their husbands seemed to be getting working the steps in their meetings. So the women adopted the Twelve Steps from AA to their situation, and instead of the first step of admitting they were powerless over alcohol and that their lives had become unmanageable, they also admitted they were powerless over people, places and things. With this admission, freedom and peace began to flow through them and into their lives. Wahe Guru!
In the 1980’s, via the work of Melody Beattie inspired by her Al Anon program, the term codependent came into the collective consciousness. And many, many people who didn’t really relate to having a spouse as an alcoholic, identified with the concept that mental obsession with how others live or their reality and an uncontrollable refusal to accept what was out of their control, was making them miserable, so that they, too, were able to benefit from the tools of the Al Anon program.
It’s time for Al Anon tools to enter the kundalini yogini consciousness.
I call relationships the grad school of spirituality because that is the last frontier to embodying the core teaching of Guru Nanak’s teaching, Ek Onkar—we are all One Soul. If you are distracted on a daily basis with how someone else behaves (even people you don’t know personally, this could be someone in the news or a reality show, it could be a person at the store or even another yogi!), whether it is how they treat you, what they think of you, how they are making decisions, their successes, their failures… to the point you are not experiencing the magic of your incarnation and life—that is a sign of codependency and you may benefit from some of the Al Anon tools to start embodying the kind of indestructible happiness that is your birthright.
This Full Moon at zero degrees Libra,
This Supermoon Spring Equinox,
This 3/10 year (tantric numerology), and
This Time and Space…no longer accommodate distractions from Self.
Whereas before it took a wife of an alcoholic suffering from late stage alcoholism to hit an emotional bottom before she was ready to ask for more from life then days filled with mental obsessions to the point of exhaustion, anger, and endless distraction from her journey—now, in the Aquarian Age, the Universe is going to make you feel that desperate if you are squandering any part of your day not realizing the Truth and Beauty of your existence. The time has come to start letting some Sat Nam flow through these rivers and tributaries of connections we create when we connect with other Souls in human form.
Here is a simple and profound tool from Al Anon, it’s called the “Do’s and Don’ts’ (which I have adapted, for the entire list go here)…test them out on your relationships, intentionally start doing the Do’s…and see how Spirit starts flowing with a little more ease in your connection with others.
Do be humble
Do relax and take it easy—tension is harmful
Do play—find recreation and hobbies
Do keep on trying whenever you fail
Don’t be self-righteous
Don’t try to dominate, nag, scold and complain
Don’t lose your temper
Don’t try to push anyone but yourself
Don’t keep bringing up the past
Don’t wallow in self-pity
Don’t make threats you don’t intend to carry out
Don’t be over-protective
Don’t be a doormat
Let’s DO use our kundalini superpowers to shoot some LOVE in people’s Souls, k?